Ladies! Stand up, add more colors to your life

Ladies, if you are reading this I hope you and I once experience the same worst feeling of being as a girl with traditional and culture norm in a society which block us for many opportunities to grow and shine, I meant both of education and social interaction. Let's me share you one story, so that you don't feel you are the only one who are dealing with that pressure.

I was born in a family with a group of sisters, sibling and cousins, and I am the youngest one. Luckily, I raised up with the opportunity to be educated because parents understood how education would impact for future living. Beside my oldest cousin, I am the only one who got BA degree by 2016. I still continue to grow myself in another university for now. The rest of my sisters, they quit and married to create a small family.

Many people came and told me, "Come on! You are a girl so you don't need to study too hard. Even if you graduated, you will be back to be a housework. Marry soon, don't wait too long." I once smile to them without any responded. But, I know what is my real goals, and I believe that education would bring me into this big big world. So, how can I quit?

Besides, me and my sister were not allowed to travel anywhere without my family accompany. Even after I graduated from high school, I couldn't have a trip as a farewell or to somewhere in rural area. I didn't complain for that, instead I tried to understand that because they worried, and because we were born as female gender. But instead of followed all the rules, I once decided to find a way to make a better change. I called it as revolution. I decided to search and involve in community projects, and I had to be stubborn to committed to what I want to do with responsibility. Not only social interaction, yet career choices also a big deal for me as the youngest sister in my family. It was really hard for me because at some points arguments occurred and I knew I was and always being a stubborn girl in family. I was not fine to see parents couldn't smile because of me. But, I had my own principle with strong commitment, and I knew what I want to do so that sooner or later I would show them how mature and independent I am with my achievements. It took me like few months as I remembered to change my family's perspectives. I tried every way to learn, to grow, to involve with society, to step in another new environment of being a fresh employee. Every stage was tough especially when I had to stand up alone in every situation because that was the only choice I got to deal with my decision making.

Finally work hard paid off! Now I feel the change I've made so far, I become a mature girl in my family's point of view. I am able to learn and grow myself in every way especially I am able to travel the world as long as I earn enough to support myself. I'm not saying that I'm good or anything else, but I can feel my parents proud of me with every achievements I've made. To me, it is the best feeling of all. And so what I've learnt from my experiences so far is that, "If you want to make things happen, first you have to believe in your ability."

Well, I understand that is how the real society works, how the culture norms take part, like you have to marry at this and that ages, you should learn kitchen skills rather than learn to go out, or as a girl you should not allow to go to this or that place, or even you are not allowed to wear that kind of sexy outfit so that people will judge you that you are a bad girl... said from judges in society. Well come on! It's 21 century, we deserve to be well-educated, and most importantly we deserve to be shined in our own ways. And I can understand that no matter what, people still judge with their perspectives, so why do I have to live my life to impress others? That is my own life, I should live it to the fullest.

My ladies, trust me that you have ability to make a move if you are really committed that way, you and I were born in this world not just to stay in a room with four walls, not just to learn how to cook well, or even how to serve husband properly. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying we should not care about that, we must to, in the right time. But is that all we can do for this entire life? That should be something more beyond that. I am not going to tell you to turn into the devil girl in your family, yet to be a mature and strong girl for your family especially a strong wife and mommy to be for your mini family. Stop allowed culture norm to stop your way of shining as long as you know you are doing right in your own way. You will be a stubborn one while you decide to step outside your line, but I am sure they will be proud of you in someday. Stand up and add more colors to your life, so that you will have amazing stories to share with your mini ones in the future ahead.

Support with loves :)